My heart goes out to women in lonely marriages.
I've been there, and I wish someone would have told me the truth about men and God's design for women. Maybe things would've turned out differently.
Maybe not, but I still wish I'd known.
For the first half of my life, I was thoroughly confused by men.
My father was absent from my life for 37 years.
And my first two marriages (Did I just say that out loud?) ended in divorce.
For years I believed all of that was my fault.
Then I started studying men from a very different angle: as a Psychologist and Couples Counselor. And I was amazed by what I learned.
It’s all about the girl really.
You were created to be his inspiration. That’s what God has in mind for you. And you have the power to influence him in ways you don't realize.
No, you're not responsible for all that he does. Those are his choices to make.
However, you do have the responsibility to learn how what you say & do influence his choices. In fact, you were created for this. And so was he.
The man was not created because the woman needed him; the woman was created because the man needed her. (1 Corinthians 11:9)
I love helping the boy win back his girl.
I love helping the girl find her heart’s desire.
Because it’s all about the girl. Really.
Yes, you were created for him. You are his inspiration. You have the power to influence who he is.
And I’m here to teach you how to use your influence wisely.
“Dr. Debi helped me see that I had expectations for my husband based on my own expectations for myself. I expected my husband, who is mentally wired differently, raised differently, processes differently, communicates differently and is even biologically built differently, to act like me, a female. Once I was able to realize those differences, I was able to listen and learn what HE needed from me instead of what I thought he needed. This new outlook opened up new conversations which have led to a level of depth that neither of us knew existed. We are extremely grateful to Dr. Debi for showing us the tools we need to love each other, respect each other, and take care of each other in the way that Christ intended us to.”Emily
“My wife and I saw Dr. Debi after being married for 23 years and she brought us back from a place where, in my opinion divorce was inevitable, to a loving, caring, more understanding relationship. I’ve since learned how to communicate better, be more patient, and realize that the two different backgrounds we both were raised from has a huge impact on how we deal with things today. Dr. Debi is amazing how she’s able to translate what a man is trying to say/tell his wife and have it make sense. She has an extraordinary insight on men and how they speak and what they need in a relationship. After seeing Dr. Debi I feel much closer to my wife and realize she’s the most important thing I have in my life, and I will protect her to my last breath. Thanks again Dr. Debi.”Jeff
“Dr. Debi is amazing! She is caring, understanding and highly educated. She has been given a gift of being able to understand men and provide tools for them to communicate their thoughts & feelings in a way that women can understand. It’s remarkable. She is objective and wants your marriage to be successful, she wants you to be madly in love and she is able to provide the tools to get you there. She was able to bring us back from honestly what both my husband and I thought was an inevitable divorce. We are truly happier and more in love than we have ever been in our 23 year marriage. We are so very thankful for Dr. Debi – she is a gift from God.”Char
“Marriage – like dancing – is so much sweeter when partners are in sync. Thank you, Dr. Debi, for providing a fun, informative evening filled with insight into the men in our lives and ways to improve our relationships. I only wish I had been aware of these simple tools years ago. It would have made the bumpy dance floor of life so much smoother!”Marilyn
“I’ve been telling so many women how your seminar & book saved my marriage. I’m so excited to share this life changing info with all the women in my life.”Lisa
“I thank God for leading us to you and your sincere, knowledgeable and anointed spirit and teaching! From you, we’ve each learned a lot about each other, about communication, and in better understanding each others’ emotions. More importantly, I believe your teaching (and your “person”) has been instrumental in each of us strengthening our relationships with God (most importantly, my Husband’s). We cannot be thankful enough for you saving our marriage (would seem almost impossible to most), and also to restoring it to much better than before the separation! We love you.”Jackson & Chalaun
“Last fall, we were ready to call it quits. We fought constantly. But because of your great contribution, we had a wonderful anniversary celebration this weekend. We are enjoying our marriage! And we are thinking of you with full gratitude. Thank you so much, Dr. Debi.”Tom & Lacey