Welcome to The Psychology of Men & Marriage, where Men are Respected & Women are Valued. I’m Dr. Debi Smith, a Clinical Psychologist. I love to write books & dance with My Cute Boy. I believe the best way to change the world is through the everyday actions of passionate, empowered couples who know how to enjoy the Beauty of Life Together. "Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor: If either of them falls down, one can help the other up." (Ecclesiastes 4:9-10) I write from a female perspective, of course, on understanding men & marriage. Based on Biblical Principles, Scientific Research, and my Experience as a Couples Therapist.
Embracing the Dance of Romance
A man & woman dancing together in 3/4 time is the best metaphor for Romance. He takes the lead. She follows. He guides & protects her. She inspires & influences him, even as she admires him and makes him look good to anyone who’s watching.
Mothers & Sons
An academic exploration of the mother-son relationship with particular attention to its impact on boys' emotional & social development. The issue of nature & nurture is addressed, as well as the complex topic of boys and vulnerable emotions.
Quick Start Guide to Understanding Men
Containing 7 essentials every woman needs to know about the man she loves, the Quick Start Guide to Understanding Men is a 50-page downloadable workbook and companion course.
The Wise Woman's Guide to Creating a Joyful Marriage
Wisdom. Confidence. Influence. The Wise Woman's Guide is a biblically-sound, research-based approach to creating a Joyful Marriage. Because it's all about the girl. Really.
How to Resolve Couple Conflict
Slow things down and get out of that Negative Cycle. This downloadable transcript and companion course provide a step-by-step guide for breaking the cycle and creating connection.
“I thank God for leading us to you and your sincere, knowledgeable and anointed spirit and teaching! From you, we’ve each learned a lot about each other, about communication, and in better understanding each others’ emotions. More importantly, I believe your teaching (and your “person”) has been instrumental in each of us strengthening our relationships with God (most importantly, my Husband’s). We cannot be thankful enough for you saving our marriage (would seem almost impossible to most), and also to restoring it to much better than before the separation! We love you.”Jackson & Chalaun
“My wife and I saw Dr. Debi after being married for 23 years and she brought us back from a place where, in my opinion divorce was inevitable, to a loving, caring, more understanding relationship. I’ve since learned how to communicate better, be more patient, and realize that the two different backgrounds we both were raised from has a huge impact on how we deal with things today. Dr. Debi is amazing how she’s able to translate what a man is trying to say/tell his wife and have it make sense. She has an extraordinary insight on men and how they speak and what they need in a relationship. After seeing Dr. Debi I feel much closer to my wife and realize she’s the most important thing I have in my life, and I will protect her to my last breath. Thanks again Dr. Debi.”Jeff
“Dr. Debi is amazing! She is caring, understanding and highly educated. She has been given a gift of being able to understand men and provide tools for them to communicate their thoughts & feelings in a way that women can understand. It’s remarkable. She is objective and wants your marriage to be successful, she wants you to be madly in love and she is able to provide the tools to get you there. She was able to bring us back from honestly what both my husband and I thought was an inevitable divorce. We are truly happier and more in love than we have ever been in our 23 year marriage. We are so very thankful for Dr. Debi – she is a gift from God. We are enjoying our marriage! And we are thinking of you with full gratitude. Thank you so much, Dr. Debi.”Cathy
“Dr. Debi helped me see that I had expectations for my husband based on my own expectations for myself. I expected my husband, who is mentally wired differently, raised differently, processes differently, communicates differently and is even biologically built differently, to act like me, a female. Once I was able to realize those differences, I was able to listen and learn what HE needed from me instead of what I thought he needed. This new outlook opened up new conversations which have led to a level of depth that neither of us knew existed. We are extremely grateful to Dr. Debi for showing us the tools we need to love each other, respect each other, and take care of each other in the way that Christ intended us to.”Gary & Katie